I am a coach…
I don’t just listen to what you say.
I feel into the space between your words.
I look into your eyes.
I notice your energy.
I see your shape.
I lean into your emotions.
I sense your intention.
I hear what you don’t say.
I interpret your silence.
I feel you, the real you.
The one underneath the social expectations.
I call you forth to speak your truth.
I am a coach… it’s more than just a conversation.
~ Jane Warrilow ~
These are the words shared at the end of our last 2016 International Coach Federation (ICF) Chapter Board call – how appropriate as we, individually and as a team, reflect on the work we do. As I consider not only the coaching profession but the world at large, the ability to be truly present for and with others is needed more than ever. And, no, it’s not easy. In the midst of our busyness, technological distractions, and competing demands, showing up fully – in body, mind and spirit – takes effort.
What would it look like if each of us, in our own special role – as parent, friend, colleague, citizen, leader, and, dare I say, politician – took time to slow down? To show up for others? Without judgment? Without an agenda? Without the need to control? No doubt the world would be a more compassionate, supportive, productive, and healthier place.
The invitation: Consider your own relationships – at work and at home. In what relationship(s) would being more present, open, and a better listener make a difference? When’s the next time you might call on your “inner coach” to cultivate more than just a conversation.